I have the best husband. No really, I do. He is the kindest man I’ve ever met. He’s so funny, smart, and sweet. We’ve had the highest of highs and some pretty low lows together, but we’ve always come out on top. We’ve only been married for a little over a year, but we’ve been together for almost a decade. I’ve spent a third of my life with him, and basically my entire adult life.
We met in 2009, when I was a freshman in college. I was 18 and he was 26.
I started working at Applebee’s as a hostess where he was a bartender/server. To say the least, my family was less than thrilled that their bright eyed, college student daughter was dating a restaurant employee. There was a bit of controversy and arguments that ensued.
We got engaged in 2017. For Labor Day weekend, we rented a cabin at Dale Hollow Lake. I had ZERO idea that he was planning to propose, which I think is the dream. After almost 8 years together, you’d think I would have seen the “signs”. No one did. (Well, my grandma says that she had a feeling just because we were going away on a trip.) Every time I’ve talked about getting engaged, I always get asked if he asked my parents. Well, he didn’t. To be completely fair, he didn’t need to. He’d had their blessing for YEARS. If he would have asked, they might have offered to throw in on the ring years before he ended up buying one.
My parents often joked that he went to the “son in law bracket” instead of “boyfriend bracket” when they went Christmas shopping, long before he actually became their son in law. He often joked that each time someone asked “When are you two going to get married”, he made me wait 6 more months before getting engaged. When my mom heard that, she yelled at anyone & everyone to stop asking. She just wanted to give us an amazing wedding. I think she was David Tutera in another life. When I video called her to tell her we were engaged, she had to stop screaming & jumping so that everyone else in the room could hear what I was saying.
Over the past decade, we’ve done quite a bit:
- We’ve moved to new careers. I finished college & started teaching. He’s moved onto sales & management.
- We’ve traveled. Not a lot, but we have.
- We bought our first house together.
- We got 2 pups. We got Bella in 2010 & Echo in 2019.
- We got married & went on the most beautiful honeymoon in Punta Cana, Dominican Republic.
- We had the most beautiful little girl, Avery.
All of that is great. Some is greater than the others. But mostly, we’ve just been happy. Trust me, we’ve had rough patches – but we’ve always overcome them. I think that’s the goal everyone reaches for in a relationship & marriage. I can count on him like I can count on my own two hands. He’s my favorite person in the entire world. He’s the first person I want to make proud, but the first person I want to run to when I get knocked down. He is the husband that wants me to live out my dream Pinterest life & will do anything to make that happen, but our relationship is so much more than that.
After we got married, everyone asked me how different my life was. And to be perfectly honest, it wasn’t different. I had a fancy piece of paper that changed my name and made us a legal partnership. Other than that, nothing really changed. He was already my partner. He was already my best friend. He had been those things for as long as I could remember. I would be more worried if everything had changed after getting married.
I’m so lucky to be married to my best friend.